The Real Reason I Check Dates’ Social Media

It’s not to dig up dirt on them. I want the good stuff.

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I don’t do it to be creepy. It’s not subversive. There’s no ill intent. But, I do vet men I’m talking to on dating sites on social media. It’s rational. I’m not the only person to do this.

I have my fair share of trust issues. I mean, I once went on a date with guy I later found out was arrested for luring a minor. Then there was the guy I met for coffee who turned out to be married. This will teach you really fast to vet your date.

Vetting dates isn’t a gateway to being a stalker. It may seem kind of creepy but the reality is that dating is sometimes a scary endeavor for women. We are taught to be on our guard at all times.

I understand that men do this too and it’s more than perfectly reasonable. No one wants to show up for a date and be taken by a charming new person only to realize that what you sat across from over a glass of wine was nothing more than smoke and mirrors.